Information for young Women aged 13-19
Enough!!
Empowering Young Women, Encouraging Healthy Relationships
Enough is a support service for 13-19 year olds who are worried about their relationship. Are you worried about your relationship?
Concerned about the behaviours of someone you're dating? The Enough!! Helpline runs every Thursday from 5:30-7pm on 0141 553 2022.
You might feel like they have too much to say over some aspects of your life. You don’t have to be living together to be experiencing abuse. Abuse in teenage relationships is when you begin to feel controlled or scared of someone.
It can be hard to know if a relationship is unhealthy. We often think of abuse as violence, but this is only one part of an abusive relationship. Unhealthy teen relationships can involve much more than physical violence. It can be subtle and hard to recognise.
What can an unhealthy relationship look like?
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Feeling Isolated/Excluded
they get upset when I hang out with anyone else
they say I cant do better than them
they act nice around others but not when we are alone
they made my friends hate me -
Abused Emotionally
says things like “if you really loved me you would…”
they give me regular silent treatment
makes me feel bad about yourself
I don’t know which mood they will be in next
they tell so many lies to me
I hate the humiliating names they call me -
Controlled
I need to ask for permission to do things
They are violent towards others
takes or hides my money
my friends are worried about me
they control my phone and messages
they decide most things for me -
Feeling Threatened or Acts of Violence
makes you feel on edge
loses temper often
follows me or turns up unannounced
makes me worried about what they might do to themselves
they break and damage things
push, squeeze, punch, chokes or hits me
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Sexual Abuse
Pays for things / gives me gifts with expectations
traps me into sending images
shares private pictures or videos of me
removes the condom during sex
pushes me into doing things I don’t like
Gave me drugs or alcohol
lied about their age at first
tells me its normal and no one will believe me -
Online Abuse
controls what I do online
constantly sends me messages and calls
shares things about me online to hurt me
uses my passwords to access my accounts -
Being Blamed or Gaslighted
makes me feel so crazy, I don’t know what is true (gaslighting)
always gives me excuses for bad behaviour
it’s always me that has to apologise
tells me they are ashamed of me
says I’ve been with someone else