Information for young Women aged 13-21
Enough!!
Empowering Young Women, Encouraging Healthy Relationships
Enough is a support service for 13-19 year olds who are worried about their relationship. Are you worried about your relationship?
Concerned about the behaviours of someone you're dating? The Enough!! Helpline runs every Thursday from 5:30-7pm on 0141 553 2022.
You might feel like they have too much to say over some aspects of your life. You don’t have to be living together to be experiencing abuse. Abuse in teenage relationships is when you begin to feel controlled or scared of someone.
It can be hard to know if a relationship is unhealthy. We often think of abuse as violence, but this is only one part of an abusive relationship. Unhealthy teen relationships can involve much more than physical violence. It can be subtle and hard to recognise.
What can an unhealthy relationship look like?
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Isolation
• getting upset when I hang out with anyone else
• saying I can't do better than them
• acting nice around others but not when we are alone
• trying to make my friends hate me -
Emotional abuse
• saying things like “if you really loved me you would…”
• regularly giving me the silent treatment
• making me feel bad about myself
• not knowing which mood they will be in next
• telling me a lot of lies
• I hate the humiliating names they call me -
Controlling behaviours
• making me ask for permission to do things
• being violent towards others
• taking/hiding my money
• my friends are worried about me
• controlling my phone and messages
• deciding most things for me -
Feeling threatened/acts of violence
• making me feel on edge
• losing their temper often
• following me/turning up unannounced
• making me worried about what they might do to themselves
• breaking and damaging things
• pushing, squeezing, punching, choking or hitting me
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Sexual abuse
• paying for things/giving me gifts with expectations
• trapping me into sending images
• sharing private pictures or videos of me
• removing the condom during sex
• pushing me into doing things I don’t like
• giving me drugs or alcohol
• lying about their age at first
• telling me it is normal and no one will believe me -
Online abuse
• controlling what I do online
• constantly sending me messages and calls
• sharing things about me online to hurt me
• using my passwords to access my accounts -
Gaslighting/blaming
• making me feel so crazy, I don’t know what is true (gaslighting)
• always giving me excuses for bad behaviour
• it’s always me that has to apologise
• telling me they are ashamed of me
• saying I’ve been with someone else